mookydoodle-deactivated20130218 asked: Regarding recent post, I'd appreciate if you'd clear up a few things: your stance on abortion if the woman was raped, and your stance on why - if the issue were as simplistic as you portray it - women willingly go through illegal abortions which can, and often do, kill them.
Rape is such a terrible a traumatic thing. When a woman is raped and becomes pregnant with the child of the rapist, she’s often left in a very fragile state and she’s in a place of great emotional pain. All she may want is a way out, a way to escape that pain, and she may think that getting an abortion is the key to escaping that pain.
Unfortunately, events cannot un-happen. I would never wish rape upon anyone, and I would never say that dealing with the emotional, mental, and physical effects of rape is easy in any way. However, abortion is also something that is very traumatic. To be put in such a fragile state due to rape and then feel that you have no other option than to kill your own child is heartbreaking. The very sad truth is that you can’t fix one traumatic experience by adding another traumatic experience.
I recently spoke to a woman who was raped while she was in college and she later found out she was pregnant, and then chose to have an abortion. She lives with the regret of killing her own child everyday. She said that in both situations (rape and abortion) she felt that she was being violated, but in the case of abortion, the emotional pain was greater, because she was the one who chose to go through the abortion, she was the one who chose to kill her child.
Everyone told her that having the abortion would help her cope with the rape, but after the abortion, she realized that wasn’t true. The rape had still happened, and she was still going to have to go through a lot of healing to deal with it. And now, so did the abortion.
Regarding your second question, it certainly is very sad that women go through legal abortions when such a procedure can be fatal to them. But the truth of the matter is that someone always dies in the case of an abortion. Last week, a 29 year old woman named Jennifer McKenna Morbelli was in her 33rd week of pregnancy and died from aborting her child, who was expected to have fetal anomolies. Two people died that day: Jennifer and her unborn daughter.
The main issue is that, many times, women feel as though abortion is the only option. You have an unexpected pregnancy? Abortion will fix that. You’ve been raped? Abortion will make it go away. Your child might have birth defects? Abortion will solve this.
We, as a society, need to remember that you cannot love women while killing their children. And you cannot save children without helping their mothers. We as a society need help them BOTH. These women need help, they need care, and they need love. What they DON’T need is abortion. Women should never have to turn to killing their children as a solution to a crisis situation.